Have you ever wondered why some couples weather storms together, while others crumble under stress? A big part of the answer lies in attachment styles-the emotional blueprint we carry from childhood into adult relationships.
Here’s a quick look at four common styles:
Secure Attachment
– You feel comfortable with closeness and trust your partner. Conflict doesn’t threaten the
relationship, and you can share feelings openly.
Anxious Attachment
– You crave closeness but worry your partner might pull away. You may feel insecure, need constant reassurance, and fear abandonment.
Avoidant Attachment
– You value independence and can feel smothered by too much closeness. In conflict, you might withdraw or shut down to protect yourself.
Fearful-Avoidant (Disorganised) Attachment
– You want intimacy but also fear it. Relationships feel unpredictable, swinging between seeking closeness and pushing your partner away.
Why does this matter for you?
Attachment styles shape how you connect, handle conflict, and repair after arguments. In therapy, understanding these patterns helps couples move from blaming each other to recognising old wounds driving reactions.
The good news? Attachment styles aren’t fixed. Couples can learn new ways to feel secure,
connected, and understood.
If you’re curious about your attachment style-or struggling to feel safe and close in your
relationship-get in touch. Together, we can help you build stronger, healthier bonds.
